The Changing Room

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  • Forgiving For Grownups

    Why Forgiveness is a Conversation, Not a Command Many of us have been taught that forgiveness is something we grant—a switch flipped, a box checked, a pronouncement made. Someone wrongs you, they apologize, you say “I forgive you,” and everyone moves on. Clean. Simple. Done. Except it’s not done, is it? Because real forgiveness doesn’t Read more

  • Never Really Done

    As I was taking my dog for an early morning spin around the block I realized I could get to the store right when they open at 7 and then I’d have all my chores done before most people even roll out of bed on a Sunday. Achiever. But anyone who understands the culture in Read more

  • Toxic Social Media

    How to curate your own algorithm and make content that matters I know, I know! “It’s not an airport – you don’t have to announce your departure” the haters will say. And they’re right. But I did an experiment in October: deactivate the Facebook profile for the month. See what happens. And I think I Read more

  • 75 Strong: A Sustainable Approach to Serious Personal Growth

    Read time: 6 minutes How do you typically like to start a new year? For many people, the holidays bring more calories and less structure than we’re used to, and by January we’re ready for a change from all that change.  This has been the case with me for a very long time. I thrive Read more

  • Health And Happiness: Why Joy Matters So Much

    ⏱️ Reading Time: 5 minutes 📌 Quick Takeaways: How often would you say that you think about your happiness level… the degree to which you experience joy on a regular basis? If you’re like a lot of people, it may not be something you actively monitor at all, but maybe you should. The connection between Read more

  • Building Better Habits: The Science of Habit Stacking

    Have you ever looked at someone who seems to have it all together and wondered, “How do they do it?” The truth is, we’re all works in progress, shaped by the countless small decisions we make each day. Our habits—those automatic behaviors that make up roughly 40% of our daily actions—define who we are and Read more

  • You Matter

    Recently I was in a stranger’s car that I summoned on the internet, and we were casually chatting while stuck in traffic. He asked me what I do for a living. I said I do content creation and marketing on the internet.  He commented that I’m lucky that I know how to make money on Read more

  • Respect Your Pace

    In the summer of 2002, about a week before Doug and I took off on our sailing trip from Seattle to Mexico, he pulled me aside to talk to me about what a buzzkill I could expect our impending departure to be. At the time I was like “thanks a lot” but it was actually Read more

  • Use Your Butt To Work Your Butt

    I was talking with a friend once about how certain body parts respond to exercise faster than others. This mostly just has to do with genetics. We soon discovered that we are both cursed with the same particularly annoying genetic issue: our butts don’t respond to exercise like other body parts do, which is very Read more

  • Talking to Yourself: The Value of Daily Journaling

    As you might already know, for the first 75 days of 2024, I am doing a personal challenge which is to complete a checklist of 5 things each day:  I have been surprised to find that the 5th one, the check-in, is really helpful. Not because anything truly mind-blowing comes out of it; I rarely Read more

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